Hi nodyarg and welcome to 4WM
Sorry to hear of your problems but don't give up! I would hard reset before going any further and remove the SD card, now put the Hermes into bootloader mode then connect to the PC and run the Hard SPL, don't worry about Activesync connecting by the way, and it may take a few tries.
Let us know how you get on.
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